Can you challenge yourself? We know the importance of habits. We know that successful habits create successful people when they are brought into everyday action. We are what we repeatedly do. But they are hard to keep, especially when we get overwhelmed by the idea of changing for good. Don’t forget the power of small […]

Goals are hard. Well, they’re hard because we look back over a year of forgotten goals — a goal graveyard. They seem hard in retrospect because they appear so untouchable, so intangible. So pointless. But they tell us to set goals, and so every year we write out our list and try again. We might make some […]

Imagine this. You are sitting in the audience as part of a live studio recording for a television talk show. Leading the panel is one of your favourite hosts. He’s why you came today. The cameras are rolling. The lights are bright, and the air is studio-sterile. The debate among the guests is interesting and […]

Jean-Paul Sartre said that “hell is other people.” When I’m surrounded by people with whom I seem to have nothing in common, I’d be quick to agree. All my life, other people have brought me tremendous amounts of stress. They have confused me, irritated me, and stirred up visceral anger in me. When I was […]

“You stupid, dumb fool! What have you done?” How often do you talk to yourself like that? We can get so used to talking this way, we don’t notice how often we do it. Most of us are so brutal to ourselves in thought over so many years, we lose touch with what it’s like […]

  My life has featured a lot of unnecessary suffering. Self-conscious. Frustrated. Cynical. In a perpetual state of worry about gaining — and losing — the admiration of others. It took many years to realise that our many forms of mental anguish arise more from our judgement of others than of the perceived judgement others […]

E.L. Doctorow once said: “Writing is an exploration. You start from nothing, and learn as you go.” As my daily writing experiments have shown, he is right. Writing can reveal a lot about the world and ourselves. The sheer act of writing unlocks that which is deep within the dusty libraries of my mind. Until recently, I treated writing as a […]