Jean-Paul Sartre said that “hell is other people.” When I’m surrounded by people with whom I seem to have nothing in common, I’d be quick to agree. All my life, other people have brought me tremendous amounts of stress. They have confused me, irritated me, and stirred up visceral anger in me. When I was […]

  My life has featured a lot of unnecessary suffering. Self-conscious. Frustrated. Cynical. In a perpetual state of worry about gaining — and losing — the admiration of others. It took many years to realise that our many forms of mental anguish arise more from our judgement of others than of the perceived judgement others […]

You feel miserable. Life is hard. Everyone sucks. Nobody pays attention to you. Nobody respects you enough. You feel low. Your anxiety is surging. You try all the cures. They tell you to take pills. You take them, but they only mask your deeper ‘problems.’ Ultimately they make you feel even worse with all those side-effects. […]

I’ll be honest with you. I’m 33 years old and still find life hard. I still feel like a beginner. I still feel mostly clueless. I still get scared and dread things. For the most part, things are hopeful. I’m productive, I’m exercising enough, feeling positive, and I am grateful for what I have. I can experience moments of brilliance, where I feel like I’m on […]

Here it is again. That wave of discomfort. It starts like a rippling in my chest, and then a ping in my throat. I couldn’t describe the emotion because it is composed of several. Frustration; boredom; anger; restlessness; confusion, and borderline despair. I’m also sleepy. This can’t be a good start, can it? Well, yes […]

My name is Alex, and I’m a self-conscious wreck. At least, I used to be more of the time. Self-consciousness stops us enjoying the beauty of interacting with others and delivering our truth. We can end up in a spiral of doubt, poor performance and further doubt. It can be crippling. I’ve been there many […]

I’ve done some new illustrations for an article about the Japanese ‘Aikido’ philosophy. I was struck by how inspiring and relevant to today his writing was. His words bring a much-needed freshness and vigour to the distracted and stressful lives many of us can live. What I like is how he often uses the natural […]

Here it is again. I couldn’t hold Patience within the city walls any longer. These feelings remind me that life isn’t as smooth as I remembered. My bad mood has taken hold. I’m in even more of a mood because I know I’m in a bad mood. I’m in what my dad calls: ‘a decline.’ […]

Why do we care so much about what others think? Why does it feel so damn weird to put ourselves out there? Why does the prospect of being rejected fill us with weird vibes? Why do we fight so hard to protect our cool, relaxed, totally not boring, happy images? Because we’re human. Because we […]

When was the last time you labeled something without understanding it? Judged something as one thing when you didn’t know what it meant? I know I’ve done it. Given that we can never fully understand anything, in theory, we do it all the time. I label; we all label. It is a human need to […]