I’ll be honest with you. I’m 33 years old and still find life hard.

I still feel like a beginner.

I still feel mostly clueless.

I still get scared and dread things.

For the most part, things are hopeful. I’m productive, I’m exercising enough, feeling positive, and I am grateful for what I have.

I can experience moments of brilliance, where I feel like I’m on fire, burstingwith ideas.

But there are times when I allow things to affect me too much, to push me back, to drain the life from my chest until it is hollow.

It’s like losing my footing in the big climb of life, my grip has slipped, and I’ve taken a tumble. I have to dig in and set off again, a little more bruised than before.

I know that there will always be things to be afraid of, and setbacks areinevitable. But I also know that they mustn’t cloud my mind to the point that I feel unable to do anything about it.

I’ve had falls that have taken a long time from which to recover.

But I’ve also been down and turned things around more quickly.

This is why I’m writing this for myself. To remind me how to stay up, when it can seem like things are geared to keep me down.

What have I done to keep my head above water in some moments — to be resilient — when in others I would have been pulled under?

These are the two concepts that have helped me the most:

1. In reality, there runs a pervasive current that is pushing against you.

It is testing you, and it is for your own good.

You must always be moving so that you do not get forced backward by this current.

If you walk, you will stand still. Stand still, and you will be forced backward.Inaction will grow new vines that tie you down.

Your best option — your required option — is to move forward with force — fluid, calm boldness. Push through the resistance, and do something.Anything.

Life is movement. Everything moves. Everything is in a constant state of flux.You must align with such constant change, to align with reality.

If you don’t move, you are no longer real. Anlife will punish you for that. You will feel it.

The reason you feel stuck, blocked, depressed, is because you are not moving.Something frightened you. You were the rabbit in the headlights. Instead of acting quickly (survival), you were killed by inaction (death).

Every decision made to move assertivelyeven if it’s the ‘wrong’ move — is an act of rebirth.

Ever notice how when you act with resolve, rather than playing the victim, you are filled with renewed energy? Do this at every step.

Stay moving, whether you’re terrified or euphoric. Even when you sleep. Dreams grant us this freedom.

Keep your calendar filled. Exercise every day. Keep producing. Be prolificBeassertive despite the awkwardness. Build a vastoutstanding portfolioDon’t stop creating, and do it with a playful urgencyunattached to the outcome.

Never stop moving.

2You need to make peace with the darkness.

You wish negative feelings didn’t exist. But here’s some news for you. They will always be there.

It’s down to you, however, how much they get amplified.

Discomfort will be ever-present. Good feelings cannot blossom without the existence of their opposite. There will always be pain and fear. There couldn’t be light without the dark.

So you must accept that darkness will be there. When you accept, you let go.

This is what people mean when they say you need to stop giving a fuck.”

Accepting is not the same as rejecting. Too often you engage with the darkness thinking it will help.

You ruminate on your problems. You hold your breath. You take it all andyourself so seriously. You seek therapyYou regard your memories with importance and overcharged sentimentality. You inject dark into dark. And it never helps, because it makes it worse.

You need first to see that darkness is there, and resist resisting it.

The sooner you accept it, the sooner it will lose its significancefizzleaway, and be replaced with light.

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Here’s an example. This is how it usually works with you:

Ah, here comes that fear again. Oh no, what does it mean? Am I a weak or a bad person? Oh dear, this feels horrible, and it’s getting worse. It’s making me panic. I need to close up. I need to hide.

Instead, see these negative thoughts as tiny flies circling the head of a bull.

These thoughts and sensations are nothing. They’re nothing more thanlittle warnings from your Ego telling you that you’re at risk of ruining that perfect false image you have of yourself.

This applies to any discomfort, including the threat you might perceive inother people.

They are there, but you are the bull, paying them no heedYou view those flies as friends; things to be laughed at, and they no longer threaten you. You carry on doing your thingmunching grass, despite the incessant buzzing

…Which grows quieter.

You’re a bull, and you don’t give a shit about little flies.

After a while, you’re so focused on what’s happening right in front of you(that juicy green grass; the bright red cape) that you forget those thoughts and feelings were there entirely.

Using the energy you previously reserved for fighting the darkness, insteadblast it with light, through boldly creating, moving and doing positive things;defying what would have paralysed you before.

Now you are in the moment. Alive.

The brief setback is behind you.

The flies are circling, but you’re at ease.

You’re climbing again.

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  1. I’m 33 too and all the stuff is the same here.
    The only distinction from my twenties is that difficulties won’t stop me.

    “Now, here, you see, it takes all the running you can do, to keep in the same place. If you want to get somewhere else, you must run at least twice as fast as that!”, as the Red Queen said.

  2. “You’re a bull, and you don’t give a shit about little flies.”

    This made me laugh and inspired me 🙂

  3. Hi Alex! Thank you very much for sharing your insights with the world. This post has lighten up my day and made me feel much better about my constant struggle for being creative in a world where creativity is certainly underestimated. I am definitely one of your followers now.

    Keep up all the good work ( your meaningful writing and your awesome illustrations).

    All the best,



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