I used to take social media so seriously, pining for likes. Still do sometimes. I stress myself out overanalysing why someone else got more followers than me on Instagram. She has how many? Doing that? What does a guy have to do to get followers and likes these days? And then I laugh. Why am […]

“You stupid, dumb fool! What have you done?” How often do you talk to yourself like that? We can get so used to talking this way, we don’t notice how often we do it. Most of us are so brutal to ourselves in thought over so many years, we lose touch with what it’s like […]

My life has featured a lot of unnecessary suffering. Self-conscious. Frustrated. Cynical. In a perpetual state of worry about gaining — and losing — the admiration of others. It took many years to realise that our many forms of mental anguish arise more from our judgement of others than of the perceived judgement others inflict […]

Why do we care so much about what others think? Why does it feel so damn weird to put ourselves out there? Why does the prospect of being rejected fill us with weird vibes? Why do we fight so hard to protect our cool, relaxed, totally not boring, happy images? Because we’re human. Because we […]