“You stupid, dumb fool! What have you done?” How often do you talk to yourself like that? We can get so used to talking this way, we don’t notice how often we do it. Most of us are so brutal to ourselves in thought over so many years, we lose touch with what it’s like […]

My life has featured a lot of unnecessary suffering. Self-conscious. Frustrated. Cynical. In a perpetual state of worry about gaining — and losing — the admiration of others. It took many years to realise that our many forms of mental anguish arise more from our judgement of others than of the perceived judgement others inflict […]