Goals are hard. Well, they’re hard because we look back over a year of forgotten goals — a goal graveyard. They seem hard in retrospect because they appear so untouchable, so intangible. So pointless. But they tell us to set goals, and so every year we write out our list and try again. We might make some […]

There are those days when the fire inside only simmers. What brought you to life yesterday doesn’t strike you like it did today. Why? It could be for many reasons. You slept in, and now your whole day has slowed to your pace. You’re hungover. You ate junk food. Jacqueline didn’t reply to your texts. […]

Jean-Paul Sartre said that “hell is other people.” When I’m surrounded by people with whom I seem to have nothing in common, I’d be quick to agree. All my life, other people have brought me tremendous amounts of stress. They have confused me, irritated me, and stirred up visceral anger in me. When I was […]

You make great art. We can see that. You’re good. You’ve put thousands of hours into your craft. You’ve set up a coherent, and a strong portfolio of pieces; of articles; of videos. And yet you’re not picking up those clients. You’re not making those sales. Your art is rich, but you are not. You […]

“You stupid, dumb fool! What have you done?” How often do you talk to yourself like that? We can get so used to talking this way, we don’t notice how often we do it. Most of us are so brutal to ourselves in thought over so many years, we lose touch with what it’s like […]

My life has featured a lot of unnecessary suffering. Self-conscious. Frustrated. Cynical. In a perpetual state of worry about gaining — and losing — the admiration of others. It took many years to realise that our many forms of mental anguish arise more from our judgement of others than of the perceived judgement others inflict […]

There is a sense of building despair that comes with repeated failures. We feel our spirit drain with every project dropped for a new one; with every ‘mistake’; with every rejection. Failure is good if we view it for the value it holds, yes. But at some point, we need to see some success — […]

You feel miserable. Life is hard. Everyone sucks. Nobody pays attention to you. Nobody respects you enough. You feel low. Your anxiety is surging. You try all the cures. They tell you to take pills. You take them, but they only mask your deeper ‘problems.’ Ultimately they make you feel even worse with all those side-effects. […]

E.L. Doctorow once said: “Writing is an exploration. You start from nothing, and learn as you go.” As my daily writing experiments have shown, he is right. Writing can reveal a lot about the world and ourselves. The sheer act of writing unlocks that which is deep within the dusty libraries of my mind. Until recently, I treated writing as a […]

I’ll be honest with you. I’m 33 years old and still find life hard. I still feel like a beginner. I still feel mostly clueless. I still get scared and dread things. For the most part, things are hopeful. I’m productive, I’m exercising enough, feeling positive, and I am grateful for what I have. I can experience moments of brilliance, where I feel like I’m on […]