Why do anything worth doing when we’re not in the zone? When we write, we want to give ourselves the best advantage we can. When I write distracted, agitated, rushed and tired, I may — through some miracle — manage to write something. But usually, it won’t be much good. It will stray too far from the truth and deliver […]

I know what it’s like to be appallingly scattered and distracted. When I’m not clear on exactly what to do, I procrastinate like it’s my passion. I find ways to escape. Sometimes it’s with videos. Others, it’s through meaningless ‘busy’ tasks like planning my future, even though I’ve ‘planned my future’ several times in the […]

Goals are hard. Well, they’re hard because we look back over a year of forgotten goals — a goal graveyard. They seem hard in retrospect because they appear so untouchable, so intangible. So pointless. But they tell us to set goals, and so every year we write out our list and try again. We might make some […]

Imagine this. You are sitting in the audience as part of a live studio recording for a television talk show. Leading the panel is one of your favourite hosts. He’s why you came today. The cameras are rolling. The lights are bright, and the air is studio-sterile. The debate among the guests is interesting and […]

I used to take social media so seriously, pining for likes. Still do sometimes. I stress myself out overanalysing why someone else got more followers than me on Instagram. She has how many? Doing that? What does a guy have to do to get followers and likes these days? And then I laugh. Why am […]

How might your life be if you truly loved every aspect of you? If you accepted yourself completely, including your ‘flaws’? Maybe you’d find it easier to relax; to be more playful. Maybe you would take more risks. You’d ruminate less. You feel more free. Life would have its challenges, but you might sense joy […]

There are those days when the fire inside only simmers. What brought you to life yesterday doesn’t strike you like it did today. Why? It could be for many reasons. You slept in, and now your whole day has slowed to your pace. You’re hungover. You ate junk food. Jacqueline didn’t reply to your texts. […]

Jean-Paul Sartre said that “hell is other people.” When I’m surrounded by people with whom I seem to have nothing in common, I’d be quick to agree. All my life, other people have brought me tremendous amounts of stress. They have confused me, irritated me, and stirred up visceral anger in me. When I was […]

You make great art. We can see that. You’re good. You’ve put thousands of hours into your craft. You’ve set up a coherent, and a strong portfolio of pieces; of articles; of videos. And yet you’re not picking up those clients. You’re not making those sales. Your art is rich, but you are not. You […]

“You stupid, dumb fool! What have you done?” How often do you talk to yourself like that? We can get so used to talking this way, we don’t notice how often we do it. Most of us are so brutal to ourselves in thought over so many years, we lose touch with what it’s like […]